Setting up an emergency plan

During the setting up of an emergency plan, the number one priority is the safety of you and your children. Whether you are in an ongoing abusive relationship, are thinking about leaving an ongoing abusive relationship or have already left an ongoing abusive relationship.

The dynamics of a relationship are always changing, and so should your emergency plan.

It is important to keep your emergency plan in a safe and accessible space that is easy to access during times of distress, I recommend using the notepad in your phone, or a piece of paper hidden in between the back of your phone and your phone case.

When should you begin to assemble your emergency plan? 

  • When you are experiencing ongoing abuse or threats of abuse
  • Fearing the safety of yourself or your children
  • Fearing the backlash that you may face for decisions you make
  • In the process of criminal or family proceedings

The first and most important step in setting up an emergency plan is to contact a domestic violence or woman's shelter and get real, professional advice from people who want to help you live a domestic violence free life. Setting up a separate bank account and giving important papers to a family member or friend who you can trust should follow soon after.

If you are unable to find a woman's shelter with the necessary tools to help you and your situation, you can contact the local police and inform them that you intend to leave an abusive situation and ask for support in safety planning, it's extremely beneficial to ask for an officer who has a history in dealing with abuse cases.

Things to take with you: 

  • All important documents and forms of ID
  • Insurance cards and your partner's social insurance number
  • The necessary funds needed to get yourself back on your feet
  • Personal phone
  • Any necessary medication
  • Keys to the house and vehicle if applicable
  • Valuable jewelry or items that can not be replaced

After the decision has been made to leave request either a police escort or a trusted friend to accompany you and ensure you get out of your situation safely, do not tell your partner you are leaving. If your partner finds out where you are headed, have a backup plan.

If you have pets arrange for somebody you trust or a shelter to care for them temporarily.

Remember You are not to blame for the abuse of you or your children, and you are not responsible for the abusive behavior of somebody in your life